Questions to find that: "Am I jealous?"

1. Is there anybody in your relatives, neighbors, friends or whom you know; whom you don't like to meet and you hate him due to his respect, fame, wealth or other qualities?
2. Do you pray of curse and ruin for any of above personalities?
3. Are you curious to find short comings of any of above named personalities and when you find them, you tell everybody? Do you like backbiting and tale-telling about him?
4. Do you get happy on grief and sad on happiness of any of above named personalities? Do you feel hatred intensified when you see smile on his face?
5. Do you think anybody inferior and make fun?
6. Do you deny help when someone of above personalities needs your help, even when you can? Do you wish that others also don't help them and try to stop such help?
7. Do you try to harm or cause loss to him?
8. Do you not honestly praise any of above personalities? Do you try to avoid others, praising them? Do you feel bad when you listen there praise? Do you avoid disclosing any quality of them which you know?

 Attention readers:

            A disease id painful no matter it is less or more, old or new and every patient desires the cure of that disease as soon as possible. Similarly if you find yourself infected of the spiritual disease of 'Jealousy', you should immediately take steps to cure yourself because the delay in treatment may ruin your right faith (Eman).

Treatment of jealousy and male valence: -

For above objective these measures should be necessarily taken.

1. Honesty and frequently pray for forgiveness of Allah.
2. Keep recalling the disastrous consequences of jealousy so that the real fear of Allah's unhappiness, ruin of faith (Eeman), good deeds and fear of punishment of hell is arouse in the heart. Unless this happens it would be difficult to avoid sin.
3. When a person believes that he is near to death, naturally he turn indifferent to the worldly things and he is more concerned of after death (Akhrat). Therefore the jealous should also recall his death frequently.Imam Ahmed reports that Hazrat Abu Darda (May Allah is please with him) said:"There will be a reduction in jealousy and happiness of the person who recalls his death frequently." (Masnad-e-Imam Ahmed)
4. One of the causes of jealous getting into jealousy is his feeling of self inferiority when he sees favours of Allah conferred upon other person. This feeling of self inferiority is born because the jealous noticed a person better (in favours of Allah) than him. But this would have not happened if he had acted on the following injunction of Holy Prophet Muhammad (Allah’s grace and peace be upon Him), the meaning of which is "Notice the people of lower level (status) rather than upper and you will not consider any of favours of Allah inferior or immaterial." Therefore jealous should see those people upon whom Allah has not conferred favours and not provided them capabilities, although as a hidden purpose of Allah's unmatched justice.
5. The heart of jealous is filled with hatred of the person of whom he is jealous. This hatred keeps on provoking his feeling of revenge. Therefore to eliminate jealousy, it is necessary to adopt acts which change this hatred into love. The jealous will then like the other person and will never desire his deprivation of bestowments of Allah from that other person. To achieve this these acts are useful:
   1. Be first to greet and salute (Salam), shake hands and give gifts too.Hazrat Aata Khrasani (May Allah is please with him) reports that the Holy Prophet Muhammad ( Peace be upon Him) said the meaning of which is: "Shake hands with each other, this will eliminate male valence and give gifts to each others, love will flourish and animosity eliminated." (Mishkat Al-Mashabeh)
   2. If not forbidden by Shariah (Islamic rules of religion) pray for increase and betterment in the thing which is the reason of jealousy, for example one is jealous of other due to his beauty then he should pray Allah to make him more beautiful. If jealous due to respect and fame than he should pray to Allah to give him more respect and increase in his love in the hearts of people.
   3. Preventing one from exposing the shortcomings and deficiencies of the person of whom he is jealous. If some one other is doing this than he should leave the gathering or instead defend from the side of person of whom he is jealous.
   4. If the person of whom one is jealous is sad, then he should share his grief, if he is ill than visit him and if he is happy than congratulate him and participate in his happiness.
   5. If the person of whom one is jealous needs help, then should help him. If can not help himself than try to get help for him from other sources, Further he should try give as much benefits as he can to that other person.
   6. One should recognize the capabilities and qualities of the person of whom he is jealous and praise him publicly. If someone else is praising him then be happy

 Last Words

1)      It is the injunction of Holy Prophet Mohammad (Allah’s grace and peace be upon Him)(The meaning of which is): "Every bestowed one is being jealousies." Therefore, there will be a number of persons jealous of one who is favored by Allah in the form of wealth, respect or fame. Those jealous will be facing same cases as discussed earlier. So being a Muslim the person being jealousies should not hate the jealous or intend to take revenge, rather he should try to help his Muslim brothers to get rid of the disease of jealousy. Thus when the person of whom another person is jealous, feels or becomes aware by another source that someone is jealous of him, he should take these measures.

v     Be the first to greet I welcome him (Salaam)

v     No matter how much the jealous avoids, be the first to congratulate him.

v     Send gifts to the jealous

v     Pray for him

v     Be honest to praise the skills and qualities of jealous in front of others so that when he comes to know of it his jealousy is diminished and love increased.

v     If you come to know that the jealous is in some trouble or has some problem than avoid feelings of revenge. Especially pray in front of the informer of news and send a gift to the jealous through the informer, this will improve your relationship.

v     Whenever the jealous needs help, so help him either directly or through someone.

v     If the jealous is happy greet him and if he suffers a sorrow go for condolence.

 2)      If a jealous tries every measure sincerely with the grace of Allah, to get away from jealous but he fails than it is accepted (from Allah's kindness) that he will not be held accountable at the judgment day (Qayamat)

Imam Ghazali (may Allah Please with him), a famous Muslim scholar, says: " If jealous, naturally desires bad for other person and he thinks this feeling as bad and tries it to remove it from his mind but fails than its excused because he had no further control over it."

But the above excuse does not mean that one don't try to get rid of jealousy and take appropriate measures. It is his duty (Farz) to take remedial measures for jealousy, no matter what is the result. He should keep on trying and pray to Allah for help and forgiveness.

It is prayed that Allah the Almighty protects every Muslim from jealousy. (Aamin)