Roots of
jealousy:
There are five things which give
rise to the feelings of jealousy:
1. Animosity
- Respect and fame
- Feelings of self inferiority
- Fear of losing comforts ad
favors
- Fear of annihilation of
objective
- Hereunder these roots are
discussed
1) Animosity:
When a person has animosity, it is natural that he likes the devolution and
misery of his enemy. Similarly he also dislikes his enemy's wealth, fame,
respect, beauty and even his happiness. Thus animosity gives rise to jealousy.
Sometimes the person desires that the favors of Allah on his enemy be forfeited
and sometimes, in addition to it, he also desires that all of those favors on
his enemy be bestowed on him.
Due to the same cause of animosity, all followers of other books than the Holy
Quran were jealous of Muslims as mentioned in the Holy Quran: "Many of the
people of the Book desired, had you been turned back towards infidelity after
faith! Out of sheer envy of their hearts; after it that the truth has become
manifest unto them, so leave them and overlook, till Allah brings His command.
Undoubtedly Allah is powerful over every thing." Translation from: Kunz-ul-eman (Chapter-I Baqaraa,
Verse-109)
As an explanation of this verse, it is mentioned in "Khazain-il-Irfan" that
after knowing that the Islam is true religion, the Jews wished that the Muslims
be turned infidels and they lose their faith, this was an act of jealousy.
Note: -
v
Jealousy is forbidden (Haram)
v If a
person, with the help of his wealth or authority misleads and propagates
mutilated religion, then to be safe from his acts, if the devolution of his
wealth and fame is desired than it is not jealousy rather it is the third case
of situation as defined in the definition section i.e. Wish of deprivation for
'just cause' .
Examples:
The example for this case can be found today in every street and house of our
society. For example if a person has animosity with his relative than most of
the time, despite of their relationship, he wishes that his relative is defamed
in the family, his business and property are ruined, he loses his job, his
beautiful face becomes ugly in an accident he becomes disabled, hi wealth is
stolen, he is deprived of even a single penny and all of those things are
acquired by him (the jealous) and he becomes famous, enjoys wealth and has all
good food and necessities while his relative has even nothing to eat.
2) Respect and
fame:
Sometimes respect and fame are also the reasons for giving rise to jealousy. A
person attains respect and fame due to any reason like knowledge and deeds,
wealth, beauty, speaking skills, intelligence, memory etc. So when a person is
jealous of his Muslim brother, he actually wishes for the devolution of the
reason for his respect and fame and desires to get that for him.
Examples:
- Generally, due to the
blessings of his knowledge Allah blesses a person with respect and fame. His
name appears on posters and banners, people visit him to learn from the
knowledge he possesses, several books are written by him, and several
acknowledged to him, everyone praise him, he becomes famous also for following
the Sunnah and other good deeds consistently. This makes other learned man
jealous. They get very annoyed when people talk of that person's capabilities
and acts, so they strongly desire that they commit a single mistake, which
ruins their love and respect among the people. The people than respect and
love him.
- Sometimes a student, due to
his intelligence & memory, becomes famous in class, school or university
and gets respect among teachers. This respect & Fame trouble some persons
& due to jealousy they wish that some how his respect is doomed by his
death or he loses his memory in an accident.
- Sometimes a person is
naturally gifted with good speaking or recitation (of HolyQuran) power. Events
are dependents on him. People come to the program in which he is coming. His
audio cassettes are sold in large quantities. In the morning his recitation is
played in several houses and at shops. When his arrival is being announced at
a gathering, enthusiasm is involved into the people & they chant with
slogans. At the end of event people praise him. All these things sometimes
make other people jealous. These jealous people sometimes also include other
speaker & reciter. Sometimes they wish for that person's death or pray for
throat problems & even black magic is used and it is wished that his fame
& respect is lost & we get famous & respected.
- Sometimes a person gains fame
among people due to his beauty or good behavior. Due to his good habits people
are anxious to meet him. People gather around him and praise him. And induce
others to visit him. These things are also the cause of trouble for the people
who don't possess them. The people, due to jealousy, then wish that he is
defamed & people hate him, people condemn him instead of praising him. And
all of his good traits come in to us.
- Sometimes also the fame &
respect gained due to the possession of a position of authority is cause for
jealousy, People like to invite person holding position of authority wish that
their son or daughter is married in the house of that person. People flatter
with that person to achieve their own goal. That person is also called upon to
mark the opening ceremonies of different institutions & his photos are
published in news papers. Then other people most of whom are his own relatives
get jealous of him.
- Sometimes a person gets famous
in his business circle due to his skill & experience in business. His
investment is considered a guarantee of success. He is given a prominent seat
in business meetings. His suggestions are given priority over others people
quote his example for business success & follow his path to achieve
success. This respect & fame is also the cause of trouble for some people.
And due to jealousy they are just waiting for him to make a mistake leading
him to a misfortune.
- Sometimes a person becomes
renowned, for his good style of teaching, in educational circles praise of his
teaching style are heard even far away Students are proud learn from him &
get themselves respect due to their studentship. This respect & fame give
rise to jealousy in the hearts of other teachers & consequently they
desire for his destruction & deprivation.
- Sometimes an employee attains
a due respect with his boss due to his punctuality, interest in his job,
hardworking, obedience and minimum absences. Boss praise such person and give
his example, to learn, to others who they want to condemn so other lazy and
non-hard working people start planning to defame him in the eyes of boss, due
to jealousy.
3) Feeling of
self-inferiority:
Sometimes one sees other superior, in natural talents, skills and favors, then
him. He tries his every effort to excel that other or at least equal him but he
fails and starts feeling himself inferior. This inferiority complexion troubles
him and ruins his piece of mind. Finally he finds only one solution to the
problem that is somehow that other person dies, loses his position and talents,
thus the feeling of inferiority leads him to jealousy.
Examples:
- Some students are God gifted
with special capabilities. They quickly understand the lesson taught by the
teacher and due to strong memorize it. Also they are quick to reiterate it,
thus achieving praising comments of the teacher. They achieve good score in
exams as well and often students are seemed around them asking for help.
Contrary to them there are students who can't learn their lessons even after
efforts. They take much time just to memorize small points; as a result they
lose confidence in exams and get failed. Also they have to hear unpleasant
comments of teacher and other class fellows. Thus these things make them
inferiority complex. They hate those capable students and their heart is
filled with jealousy for them.
- Similarly, some people who
recite Holy Quran recite, poetry of praise of Holy Prophet Muhammad (Allah
grace Peace Be upon Him), lecturers possess special talents due to which they
are very popular among people. People are anxious to invite them to their
religious gatherings. People listen to their lecture and recitation with
attention. People often take their autographs and kiss their hands with
respect. While there are persons who don't possess such skills. People are not
anxious to invite them. Audiences don't listen to them attentively and even
some leave the hall. Due to all these factors such deprived persons get
jealous and male valet.
- Some persons are gifted with
natural beauty people like them due to their colour and complexion hairs and
physique. Very often people praise them and so they appear distinct in public
gatherings. People like to be their friends contrary to that there are people
who are very fair in colour, complexion and physique and so they feel
inferior. This inferiority complex is boosted when he is in a gathering and
people are attracted to a person, who enters suddenly since he is beautiful.
Thus less beautiful persons have feeling of inferiority ultimately leading him
to jealousy.
- Poverty also plays its part in
making people inferiority complex leading to jealousy when a poor man sees a
person who is wealthy, due to which he holds a dominant position, people
invite him to gatherings and people miss him when he does not attend the
gathering, while the poor man don't get the desired attention in such
gatherings. People even don't care whether they attend the party or not. When
wealthy person gives an expensive present to other hand when the poor man
gives an ordinary gift, it is not even considered. People are anxious to have
their children married with wealthy person's children but this is not the case
for poor. The poor man can't afford expensive education for his children and
even basic necessities. While rich man's children study in expensive
institutions and spend large amounts just on entertainment but the poor has
even not enough money for his daily expenses. All the above situation makes
the poor man inferiority complex. This feeling is provoked even more when his
family members tease him with examples of rich man. Thus finally he is jealous
of the rich person.
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